Our human nature calls us to retaliate, but our Soulful nature will always call us toward healing
I am learning a whole lot from the people who I work with, such as the idea that when we are trying to bring about healing to our own lives that it serves us well to also know what is not healing and thereby also not at all helpful.
It is not helpful to anyone, not even ourselves, when we seek to give others our truth without having also the inclination toward accepting theirs. I deal with this all the time, sometimes all day long, the idea that those who come to the conclusion that there needs to be healing also show up in my life with the idea, at least a lot of them, that their issues are someone else’s cause. They want to blame the people who are in their lives for the things that happen to them, for the way that they are thinking right now, or for the things which are not welcome in their lives.
When it comes to the things that hurt us and break our hearts, and when it comes to those very things being credited as our ‘fault’ or someone else’s, eventually and one day, we lose the idea that the things that happen to our lives were brought to our lives because someone else brought it. While this is technically true, we are not ever given any sort of lesson in this lifetime that we are not well equipped to deal with. At the same time we are also given a lesson that, while we are able to deal with it, we might not realize that what we are doing is learning, that what is in our lap at present time is meant to be, is somehow right and par for the Path. And always, you can guarantee, it is. No matter what it is that we happen upon in our lives, no matter how badly it sucks or hurts or breaks us and our will, those things are there because we called that lesson into being. Somehow we may have asked for more patience with people, or perhaps we were asking for true love, and all along all we really ached for was the truth of us. Thing is…we cannot know who we are because someone else told us who we are.
We are always only what and who we are meant to be so as to bring about the Life that we are meant to live that is beneficial for everyone in our immediate circle, and also beneficial for everyone, through our own energetic exchange, beneficial to those in our immediate circle of peoples’ personal circle as well. This is the main reason why, anymore now, I am more inclined to observe a situation in its entirety rather than tear it apart and trip out over it. I can’t. I have taken great pains to learn to observe and not obsess, and I have done remarkably well considering that I could totally still be that obsessive and clingy little twit I recall myself being not too long ago.
We need to give those we love and care about the most the opportunity to not be judged, to not be thought of as not able to handle the issues which most surely will arise from any situation and to step out courageously in to their own version of what is unknown. I cannot tell someone that they need to do something the way that I tell them to do things, but I can tell them that yes, there needs to be a change made in their thoughts and that yes, they can do this if they just believe that they can and if they just apply themselves to it. We do not have the right to impose our opinion onto someone else and behave as though they will just take our words as being the most golden. We do, though, have the right to walk away, to no longer be in that energy of opining our own thoughts to someone else and we have the right to disagree with them. We have the right to choose and to feel how we will. We do not have the right to make it as though what we say is the golden law of the land because in reality, each of us establishes our own laws, rules and yes, even land…so to speak.
When it is that we are trying to be of good service to someone else, and when it is that what we want people to see in us as the truth of us, we must ask the question “Is this the person who I want people to think is the real me?”
You may surprise yourself with the answer you come up with…
I LOVE YOU ALL!
Reverend Roxanne Cottell is the Kumu Hula and Creator of the Spiritual Hula Program for Women and the Co-Founder of Na Hula O Ka Wahine ‘Ui. She is a blogger, book author, choreographer and Spiritual Adviser. To contact Roxanne for information about the Spiritual Hula Program for Women or information regarding private hula or Spiritual Guidance sessions with her feel free to send her an email.
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