Trust that Who You Are Is Okay to Be and that What you are doing, no matter what, is right for your own personal Path…
Lots of us live under the microscopic glare of other peoples’ judgments on us. Many of us adhere and believe what it is that other people have judged us as without giving so much as a reason to really ponder why it is that anyone would have a reason to judge someone else for any reason at all. Many of us have graduated past the idea that what someone used to be, they are still, and more often than that, the majority of us choose to believe what we think is the truth of another person far and long before we bother to even find out for ourselves if what we are assuming is right.
We can assume anything we want to, but the truth of the matter is that until we bother to find out anything on our own and by ourselves we will not know what the truth is because we will have already formed our own truth in our heads and we will, like always, follow that belief.
When we choose to not see a person for how far along they have come in their own growth and we forget that people have motives other than the ones that we think they have, and we impart that inclination, that judgment, onto them as though our own truth about a matter is the only truth and without bothering to ask a question, this is when we have sunk those people we love to the level that we …WE feel comfortable with them being at. People grow Spiritually all the time. I do it. You do it. Everyone does it. We do not have the right to impart onto someone else our own judgment of the way that they are living their lives. When we do so, it minimizes them to the point where we feel comfortable but not really where they may really be in their growing, in their healing, in their very own lives.
So, the next time that any one of us decides that because something is different than what we thought it was or thought it should be, the greatest thing that you can do, not only for the people who you are concerned about, but more, for you, is to simply let them be who they are and not worry about who we have not given them credit for having become.
When we are not willing to let people be who they are, and not willing to see past what they were, and we apply who they were and what they were to who they are and what they are at this point in time, we are not only not giving them their due credit for having grown, we are also not giving our own selves credit for our own growth, and that isn’t a good thing. When we keep people in the same manner in our own souls that they may have been in the past, we are impeding them because we expect them to be all that they were rather than seeing them for the beautiful thing they have become.
I am bad at this, and there are a lot of other people who are just as bad, if not worse, than I am at it, but it remains the same that no matter what, we have to let other people do their thing because in doing so we release that worry caused by the Ego that tells us that the people we care about the most do not need the lessons which are presenting themselves as they have. We do not know better than someone else does about their own lives. I cannot cause for another person the quelling of the fire which rages within them from the ignition caused by a mistrust which resides within us all, and it is a raging fire that, while it is sparked by Love, it is also fueled by worry, and when it comes to other peoples’ lessons and learning, the only thing that we are meant to do is support them in their growth .
I Love You All !!
Reverend Roxanne Cottell is the Kumu Hula and Creator of the Spiritual Hula Program for Women and the Co-Founder of Na Hula O Ka Wahine ‘Ui. She is a blogger, book author, choreographer and Spiritual Adviser. To contact Roxanne for information about the Spiritual Hula Program for Women or information regarding private hula or Spiritual Guidance sessions with her feel free to send her an email.
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