Sometimes it isn’t someone else who is making us crazy…sometimes, it is our very selves!
The theme of late, late meaning these last two weeks, is very definitely one that is of great and needed life changes. There are some of us on the planet who seem to equate “crazy making” with helping other people through our own ridiculous misjudgments about stuff.
There is a lot of turmoil right now, yes, but at the same time there is also the thrilling electricity of permanent and positive change in the air and it is a collective energy. Whatever it is that you are having a doubt about, and whatever it is that you are tearing apart to try to see how it – whatever it is in your life right now – came to be and why it came to be, stop…stop because you are making things worse for you, and I know this is the truth because I am a recovering rescuer.
We want so badly for everyone in our lives to be happy and well, but we do not realize and cannot see the issue within the issue that the idea that we believe we need to save anyone at all is …that is our issue and that is the thing that we have to save our very selves from – the Ego’s intent to always know better or best what we as a whole Being need. The Ego only knows about what it wants and never what the entirety of the whole needs. We need to not worry about the safety, the sanctity and the wholeness of others before we worry for those things in our own lives. We need even more to stop, and like I mentioned the other day, that collectively we are in a reboot after the biggest download that humanity has ever had to go through.
We are making our own selves crazy, people. We are doing it ourselves. We are such big bozos when it comes to the things that we know we need to do and more than that, we are even bigger bozos when we know deep inside that the things that we want for one another versus the things that we know will happen for them by their own hand are two very different things. On the one hand we know how badly these people who drive us crazy with their abilities to not do what they need to do can help make us be when they do not listen to us and screw up again and again, but on the other hand we don’t realize that because we need to make it known to them that they need to change that we are the very ones who are driving us batty with the idea that we need to make something happen in their heads so that we can see them be all we know they are able to be.
That other people do what they need to on their own is one thing that I will not ever say a little Loving prompting of is not a good thing…but just a little. That we choose quite on our own to try to exact or manipulate them into doing a thing because we know it is good for them is altogether another thing on its own. When we have allowed that one thing that they seem not to think is a good thing to change about them to become part of our own human-beingish obsession to want the best for those we care the most about to the point where it keeps us up at night or to the point where it is impeding us on several different levels…
…well, that is something that is another thing that You have to work on for You, so it is best to simply just be the example of things for a moment and not try to Do but only to Be.
Tough, yes, I know it is, but so well worth it the next time the thought enters your head that you need to do something for anyone else, and will prompt you to also think about what that thought and that intention that you have for anyone else is…and more, it will bring to light, not what they need to Do or to Be to make the changes needed in their lives, but you, too, will also, if you should so choose to awaken to the reality of it all, learn where it was in your life that this other person’s issues have shed light on for YOU !!
Again, Do and Be For You and You Alone because when we Do and Be for ourselves, ultimately we are also Doing and Being All That We Are Meant to Be for Everyone Else, too!!
I Love You All !
Reverend Roxanne Cottell is the Kumu Hula and Creator of the Spiritual Hula Program for Women and the Co_founder ofNa Hula O Ka Wahine ‘Ui. She is a writer, book author, choreographer, and Spiritual Adviser.To Contact Roxanne for information about the Spiritual Hula Program for Women or information regarding private sessions with her feel free tosend an email.
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