It takes time, but once you learn to just go with the flow of Life, things begin to get a whole lot easier
I am a worrier. I thought for a long time that I was supposed to worry because in that worry came Love, or what I thought was Love – but it wasn’t Love. Love will not make a person feel badly, will not give a reason for us to feel like we are at a deficit, and Love will never hurt us. Ever. No matter what we think, and no matter what we have been through, nothing that is good for us can ever hurt us. Period.
Even if it seems like we are “giving up” a whole lot, when we think about things from an ego point of view we find that the choices which we know are the best ones for us, the ones that, when we first think about the thing that we know is best for us, it is not our heart that tells us that we should resist, and neither our Soul, or our mind, but only and always our ego. Our ego is that little Napoleonic part of us that tells us that we have everything to lose if we do what it is that our Soul is guiding us to do. Our Soul wants us to experience Joy, and our Ego wants us not to experience any pain, so rather than dealing with the little tiny piece of pain that the Soul tells us that we might go through, the Ego shouts in our ears that if we go against what it wants that the most terrible things could happen and then we follow that energy of not wanting to hurt over the energy of wanting permanent change. We would, in our human thinking, sooner not hurt than we would “suffer” the temporary discomfort brought about by change, and it could even be change that we asked for to happen.
We want things to be beautiful, but we are not willing to become the creator of our own Lives because of the responsibility involved with it. In that process we find out that we have created our lives to this point and that to this point things have been pretty hit-n-miss. We want things easy but we are not willing to go through the sifting of what is the truth of us versus what is someone else’s truth about us. We want things to be different because we know that when we choose for things to be better for us and when we set that intention we already know, just from the way that we feel physically about the things that we want in our lives, that the way our body feel is the general feeling of how things really are.
When we have no idea what Joy feels like, we run from it. When we feel like change is painful. we excuse ourselves from having to make any changes. When we are in the middle of a “do or do not” moment is when we find out the very middle truth of ourselves, find out who we are and what we really are made of. We fear the air, literally, when we fear the changes that we asked for. We fear nothing, even though that “nothing” may very well be everything to us. We know that the thing that we want is ours, but we are so afraid of our own power that when we see what we have called to our lives and find out that we really are capable of more than we thought we were, we either realize that the party has just begun …or we shrink away from it, starting the circle of doubt again, and we have to go through all of the pain, again, and all because we are too afraid to find out that indeed, our thoughts are powerful and carry the ability for us to see greatness, not only in our own lives, but in the lives of those we touch everyday.
I Love You All!!
Reverend Roxanne Cottell is the Kumu Hula and Creator of the Spiritual Hula Program for Women and the Co-Founder of Na Hula O Ka Wahine ‘Ui . She is a writer, book author, choreographer, and Spiritual Adviser. To contact Roxanne for information about the Spiritual Hula Program for Women or information regarding private sessions with her feel free to send an email.
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